How to Push Through Your Boundaries, Stop Caring What Others Think, and Become Your True Authentic BEST Self.
Who are you? I mean, deep down, who really are you? Are you the person that says yes when you really mean no, or who goes along with the crowd in order to fit in to avoid rejection? Do you speak up for yourself, or stay silent to avoid conflict and therefore dim your light and authenticity in the process?
In this book, I uncover the ways in which we lose ourselves due to years of unconscious conditioning. It’s all been a big lie that you have believed in without even knowing. Your limiting beliefs about other people, circumstances and events in your life have kept you stuck for all this time.
But it’s not all doom and gloom. I also reveal many methods of how we can break free from this mentality, and how self love is the number one key to removing those barriers, to enable us to become our true authentic selves.
The reason I wrote this book is due to my personal inner transformation. After noticing such a change within, I realised that anyone can change, grow and flourish; no one is stuck; there is always an opportunity to become better, break bad habits, and become someone new.
I used to have so many moments where I felt that I could not speak up. My mind wanted to but I couldn’t bring my body to take the action. I remember when it got really bad, and even just to ask my boss for extra time off, I would clam up inside and would feel my heart beating in my chest. This would be the same for speaking up in meetings, or just speaking among groups of people. I also remember feeling this way if I had an angry customer on the phone.
While it’s labelled as anxiety, it really boils down to feeling fearful and unsafe within the body. And this feeling is picked up, or learnt, somewhere along the journey of your life. As a child, maybe you saw conflict which made you dim yourself down and feel frightened. Or maybe you were told to never speak up, to always be quiet. Or maybe other kids at school made fun of you when you read a poem to the class. The body remembers the feelings from the past, and wants to keep you safe in the present by bringing those cues back up, reminding you of the feelings you felt before, so that you could prevent an ‘attack’, ‘belittlement’, or whatever it is.
What’s the fundamental remedy? Self-love. If you don’t like the person that you are, then in every encounter or circumstance, you will never bring your best self. You will be inauthentic, and you may feel inferior to others. When you begin to like yourself more, you’ll find that things that used to bother you don’t anymore, or you’re less fearful to do different things, and you’re more confident and able to talk to others. You show who you truly are, because you like yourself – you don’t have to hide yourself or pretend to be someone else.
So in the book, I delve into the reasons of why we don’t like ourselves, and give methods on how to cultivate self-love, to enable you to become a better, truer, more authentic version of yourself.